Is Dead really Dead?

Most people dream of happiness, others stay awake and make it happen!
“Forgive and Forget?! This concept to me, doesn’t work on the front end, because I don’t know what I’m forgiving and the emotions get buried and I’m unable to move past the experience. The emotions you are tying to bring to the surface are the very ones you have long tried to bury and forget.
Dead is Dead!
Get over it, they’re Dead, they’re not here anymore…
My, what a statement to make to someone who has just lost a loved one. That’s probably the most offensive statement I’ve ever heard in my life, from a supposed well meaning “Christian”. A very destructive statement perhaps meant with the best of intentions, but against the very nature and beliefs of the Christian Faith. This reminds me of Madeline Murray O’Hare and her statements about God being dead.
On simplistic proven scientific principles, physical matter simply transfigures into other forms of matter, take for example, burning logs in the fireplace for warmth, the logs turn to ashes which are then disposed of a put back into the ground or recycled in another way. Spiritual Matter, on the other hand has no tangible or materialistic formation, per say, meaning it’s not something we can hold in our hands and actually use the sense of touch to feel. However, the feelings of love surrounding the person who is no longer physically standing beside us, continue forward, perhaps for the rest of our physical lives on this earth. Feelings and spirit are not a tangible, black and white thing and sometimes are hard to identify. Perhaps the hurt and pain of losing someone near to you takes over and there is a refusal to even acknowledge the pain of loss. The out of mind syndrome comes to mind here, if we just ignore the pain and them, then it’s as if they never existed.
Based on these premises alone, Dead is not Dead, it’s just a transference of physical presence into another form of matter.